Mental Load

A Guide for the Guy Who Genuinely Doesn’t Get It. The Mental Load doesn’t take a summer vacation like this little guy. Summer Is Here. And She Is Running on Empty. It is 9:17 in the morning. School has been out for 8 days. She has already been asked what’s for breakfast, what’s for lunch, what snacks do we have, and — I kid you not — what’s for dinner? It is 9:17 in the morning. Somewhere between the third “I’m bored” and the second request for something that requires the sto

One major way that people sabotage their happiness within intimate relationships is by comparing themselves to couples at different ages and stages or how they were in their 20’s. They also tend to compare themselves to their "happy" friends. In this post, I hope to help level expectations for what a happy and healthy relationship looks like in your 40’s and 50’s, as opposed to your 20’s and 30’s. Marriage changes after the hormonally driven 1.5-3-year honeymoon stage. But ag

I lost my Dad about a year and half ago and it seems like lots of my friends are losing parents. We often talk about how sad this current stage of life is. These days, I seem to meet up with my childhood friends at wakes and funerals. When my husband and I got married in our 20s, we entered the wedding season of life. We had a party every weekend. In our 30s, those same friends got pregnant, and the celebrations continued as we entered the baby season of life. Now, in our

I was filling out the endless paperwork for re-enrollment for my youngest son’s school. He is starting his final year at the elementary school that all 3 of my kids attended since pre-K. I found myself really missing those days where all they wanted was me. I was literally the center of their world, and I didn’t always realize that at the time through the haze of sleep deprivation and the new normal. I remember thinking that putting them in the all-day preschool would make my

Almost everybody I know -- wealthy or struggling to make ends meet, single or celebrating their 20th anniversary, their kids are grown or toddlers --everyone seems to be suffering from some sort of culturally induced ADD or feelings of inadequacy. Our brains are swamped, and our bodies are tired. Blood pressures are up, serotonin levels are down, tempers are short, to-do lists are long, and nerves are shot. For me, there is usually a disconnect from up above, because I get to