<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8"?><rss xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" xmlns:content="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/content/" xmlns:atom="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom" version="2.0"><channel><title><![CDATA[SilviaFarag]]></title><description><![CDATA[SilviaFarag]]></description><link>https://www.silviafarag.com/blog</link><generator>RSS for Node</generator><lastBuildDate>Thu, 16 Jul 2026 07:12:55 GMT</lastBuildDate><atom:link href="https://www.silviafarag.com/blog-feed.xml" rel="self" type="application/rss+xml"/><item><title><![CDATA[The Rhythm of Repair and Restoration]]></title><description><![CDATA[The healthiest relationships aren’t the ones that never experience rupture. They’re the ones that know how to repair. One of my favorite quotes from Dr. John Gottman is: “The masters of relationships are masters of repair.” I think about those words every time I sit with a couple. As a Gottman-trained therapist, I spend a lot of time teaching couples that conflict isn’t the enemy. Disconnection is inevitable. What predicts the health of a relationship isn’t whether you fight—it’s whether you...]]></description><link>https://www.silviafarag.com/post/the-rhythm-of-repair-and-restoration</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a5818ae4ee79d90036ed10b</guid><category><![CDATA[Relationships]]></category><category><![CDATA[Mental Health]]></category><category><![CDATA[Anxiety & Attachment Style]]></category><pubDate>Wed, 15 Jul 2026 23:43:34 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/2239ca_430c6270c5354f0d8dd023571ea0655b~mv2.png/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Silvia Farag</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Her Mental Load in Summer]]></title><description><![CDATA[A Guide for the Guy Who Genuinely Doesn’t Get It. The Mental Load doesn’t take a summer vacation like this little guy. Summer Is Here. And She Is Running on Empty. It is 9:17 in the morning. School has been out for 8 days. She has already been asked what’s for breakfast, what’s for lunch, what snacks do we have, and — I kid you not — what’s for dinner? It is 9:17 in the morning. Somewhere between the third “I’m bored” and the second request for something that requires the stove, she has...]]></description><link>https://www.silviafarag.com/post/is-your-partner-running-on-empty</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a2b682816a9a8229e0342a5</guid><category><![CDATA[Mental Load]]></category><category><![CDATA[Relationships]]></category><pubDate>Fri, 12 Jun 2026 02:02:39 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/22308d_90314d77b7144215a2dc684c1569ffb9~mv2.png/v1/fit/w_742,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Silvia Farag</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Why Your Partner Resists Couples Counseling]]></title><description><![CDATA[I always feel that couples counseling is often misused and misunderstood. One half either doesn’t want to be there, was forced to be there or is simply giving it a last ditched effort so they can check off the box and say they did it.  Some of the reasons I have heard from couples I have worked with. “If we go to therapy, I might have to use... feelings.”Translation: They’re scared of vulnerability and don’t have the vocabulary yet—but that’s what you’re here for! “The therapist is just going...]]></description><link>https://www.silviafarag.com/post/why-your-partner-resists-couples-counseling</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a108ea0535059752bd7bfa3</guid><category><![CDATA[Relationships]]></category><pubDate>Wed, 11 Jun 2025 01:26:36 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/22308d_688497986d6f4d9389253852f1155c9b~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_275,h_183,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Silvia Farag</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Midlife Married with Children]]></title><description><![CDATA[One major way that people sabotage their happiness within intimate relationships is by comparing themselves to couples at different ages and stages or how they were in their 20’s. They also tend to compare themselves to their "happy" friends. In this post, I hope to help level expectations for what a happy and healthy relationship looks like in your 40’s and 50’s, as opposed to your 20’s and 30’s. Marriage changes after the hormonally driven 1.5-3-year honeymoon stage. But age is a hugely...]]></description><link>https://www.silviafarag.com/post/midlife-married-with-children</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a108ea0535059752bd7bfa2</guid><category><![CDATA[Parenting]]></category><category><![CDATA[Relationships]]></category><category><![CDATA[Mental Load]]></category><pubDate>Wed, 12 Jun 2024 14:04:17 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/2239ca_529cf33900904f75b0415cc362124e38~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Silvia Farag</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Adulting in the Sandwich Generation]]></title><description><![CDATA[I lost my Dad about a year and half ago and it seems like lots of my friends are losing parents.  We often talk about how sad this current stage of life is. These days, I seem to meet up with my childhood friends at wakes and funerals.   When my husband and I got married in our 20s, we entered the wedding season of life. We had a party every weekend. In our 30s, those same friends got pregnant, and the celebrations continued as we entered the baby season of life. Now, in our 40s, the...]]></description><link>https://www.silviafarag.com/post/adulting-in-the-sandwich-generation</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a108ea0535059752bd7bfa1</guid><category><![CDATA[Mental Load]]></category><category><![CDATA[Parenting]]></category><category><![CDATA[Relationships]]></category><pubDate>Thu, 30 May 2024 17:32:05 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/2239ca_e4eb996903c544a593cd079279a85e17~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Silvia Farag</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Magic Words to Deescalate a Fight]]></title><description><![CDATA[Many times, people tell me that their spouse is "always" the one to start the fight with them. People who think that they are the hapless victim of an argumentative partner generally do not recognize their own contribution to the fighting. Generally, couples who fight often are locked into a dynamic where one is aggressive, and one is passive aggressive. The passive aggressive partner acts like a victim, but in reality, is being as dismissive and stubborn as the more flagrantly difficult...]]></description><link>https://www.silviafarag.com/post/magic-words-to-deescalate-a-fight</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a108ea0535059752bd7bfa0</guid><category><![CDATA[Relationships]]></category><pubDate>Fri, 01 Mar 2024 21:27:27 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/2239ca_20b67837026746bd868e39950ac42a2a~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_354,h_241,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Silvia Farag</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Finding the Balance: Gentle Parenting in a Modern World]]></title><description><![CDATA[My kids got me this shirt for my birthday last year. I think it captures my essence perfectly. The one thing that has been consistent in my approach to everything is “balance.” I believe when you have balance in every area of your life including parenting, then you are in good shape. I keep reading about “gentle parenting.” It’s all-over social media, blogs etc. While I am all about gentleness and self-control, I want to share a few thoughts. It seems like it’s a trend without a tool kit,...]]></description><link>https://www.silviafarag.com/post/finding-the-balance-gentle-parenting-in-a-modern-world</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a108ea0535059752bd7bf9f</guid><category><![CDATA[Relationships]]></category><category><![CDATA[Parenting]]></category><pubDate>Fri, 23 Feb 2024 15:19:36 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/2239ca_cd9129e704e449cdb3a8316dd1ac0085~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_468,h_468,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Silvia Farag</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Healthy Expectations in Marriage]]></title><description><![CDATA[Many people ask me what a healthy relationship is supposed to look like. I often say that the biggest issue in every relationship is unmet expectations. But I want to talk about some expectations that are healthy and transformative. When you don’t grow up seeing a loving and connected marriage between your parents, it is very hard to know what to expect within marriage. Lots of my clients are adult children of dysfunctional families. It is nearly impossible to know what “healthy” looks like...]]></description><link>https://www.silviafarag.com/post/healthy-expectations-in-marriage</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a108ea0535059752bd7bf85</guid><category><![CDATA[Relationships]]></category><category><![CDATA[Anxiety & Attachment Style]]></category><pubDate>Fri, 02 Feb 2024 00:38:37 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/2239ca_77b6018ad20e432ca94cbd51d829c746~mv2.jpeg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Silvia Farag</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[My Kid is Rude, Now What?]]></title><description><![CDATA[There is, of course, no one right answer to this question. Anyone who tells you otherwise is probably trying to sell you something. We know from the research that there are a range of constructive ways to handle unsavory kid behavior. Still, I know that sometimes, it can be useful to hear specific suggestions. So here are mine. 1.     Try to stay calm. Sometimes, parents yell. And that’s fine. Your human. (Just take responsibility and apologize for it later.) But if you can stay calm, that’s...]]></description><link>https://www.silviafarag.com/post/my-kid-is-rude-now-what</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a108ea0535059752bd7bf9e</guid><category><![CDATA[Parenting]]></category><pubDate>Tue, 30 Jan 2024 19:53:23 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/2239ca_bb2867a940c648a59ce10373079afba4~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Silvia Farag</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[The Challenge of Maintaining a Strong Relationship Between Moms and Their Teens]]></title><description><![CDATA[Many parents, especially mothers find parenting teenagers to be the most stressful phase of their lives. I’ve discussed here about how to connect with your teens. You can read Part 1 and Part 2 about Connecting with your kids. Mothers are working through other issues at the same time as this stage hits. This post addresses why parenting teens can be challenging and how couples can help each other through it without taking the stress out on each other.   As soon as puberty hits, many kids...]]></description><link>https://www.silviafarag.com/post/the-challenge-of-maintaining-a-strong-relationship-between-moms-and-their-teens</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a108ea0535059752bd7bf9d</guid><category><![CDATA[Parenting]]></category><pubDate>Thu, 04 Jan 2024 16:32:40 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/2239ca_346504bb3f7b4b02a3e9d7b969d22286~mv2.png/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Silvia Farag</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Connect With Your Teens Part 2]]></title><description><![CDATA[A group of teenage girls on a Christian retreat were taken to a mountaintop and told to listen to their mothers. One at a time, they were blindfolded and told what steps to take. Since cliffs were nearby, they had to walk slowly and deliberately. Each blindfolded girl was told to listen to her mom. Her mom was instructed to speak softer and softer until her voice became a whisper. Meanwhile, the girls watching were told to gradually get louder and louder to drown out the mother’s voice. After...]]></description><link>https://www.silviafarag.com/post/connect-with-your-teens-part-2</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a108ea0535059752bd7bf84</guid><category><![CDATA[Parenting]]></category><pubDate>Wed, 27 Dec 2023 05:04:33 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/2239ca_1cacb188c492400b92b920826bbd9ead~mv2.png/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Silvia Farag</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Connect With Your Teens Part 1]]></title><description><![CDATA[Like most parents, I have some wisdom to share with my kids. Maybe I think I have more than I actually do. But they keep me humble and remind me I don’t know everything. "You are not Coptic Oprah, Mom." So I digress, but I do have a little bit of wisdom that can really help them, based on my own experiences and mistakes. And maybe just maybe someone will listen. With my teenagers, I have realized that attention spans are limited. We can blame TikTok or Instagram reels but the fact remains,...]]></description><link>https://www.silviafarag.com/post/connect-with-your-teens-part-1</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a108ea0535059752bd7bf83</guid><category><![CDATA[Parenting]]></category><pubDate>Tue, 19 Dec 2023 23:32:05 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/2239ca_74de8b1abad846378926b5853c93ffb0~mv2.png/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Silvia Farag</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Teach Your Daughter How to Handle an Excluder by Being an Includer]]></title><description><![CDATA[Great attention is paid these days to the subject of “mean girls.” For moms raising daughters, it’s a hot topic, something that adults can get fired up about.   This can be particularly triggering for me as I have met my fair share of mean girls. When my daughter shared with me how she is spoken too by one girl in her group, mamma bear surfaced very quickly. I’ll go take care of it myself, teach that young lady, her mother and everyone a hard lesson. But we all know that won’t work and my...]]></description><link>https://www.silviafarag.com/post/teach-your-daughter-how-to-handle-an-excluder-by-being-an-includer</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a108ea0535059752bd7bf9c</guid><category><![CDATA[Parenting]]></category><pubDate>Wed, 22 Nov 2023 02:20:58 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/22308d_32e9333e5b524996a4ed593a7388ac50~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_500,h_705,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Silvia Farag</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[An Angel Inside the Rock]]></title><description><![CDATA[When we were in Florence, we spent a day in the Galleria dell”Accademia di Firenze. I think you all know by now how much I admire the masters and the beauty captured in their art. The Renaissance was one of the greatest periods of creative and intellectual achievement in world history. It was an extraordinary upsurge of learning and artistic activity that spread throughout Europe in the 15th and 16th centuries. Appreciation of beauty was also a focal point of the new Renaissance. The early...]]></description><link>https://www.silviafarag.com/post/an-angel-inside-the-rock</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a108ea0535059752bd7bf82</guid><category><![CDATA[Faith & Neuroscience]]></category><pubDate>Sun, 15 Oct 2023 22:55:35 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/2239ca_4cb5674c03c246da918bd91529a27779~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Silvia Farag</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[A Fallacy of Motherhood]]></title><description><![CDATA[I was filling out the endless paperwork for re-enrollment for my youngest son’s school. He is starting his final year at the elementary school that all 3 of my kids attended since pre-K. I found myself really missing those days where all they wanted was me. I was literally the center of their world, and I didn’t always realize that at the time through the haze of sleep deprivation and the new normal. I remember thinking that putting them in the all-day preschool would make my life easier. And...]]></description><link>https://www.silviafarag.com/post/the-fallacy-of-motherhood</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a108ea0535059752bd7bf9b</guid><category><![CDATA[Mental Load]]></category><category><![CDATA[Parenting]]></category><pubDate>Wed, 16 Aug 2023 14:25:59 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/2239ca_9dd4cbbfd8e14696b059149ef21c5c69~mv2.jpeg/v1/fit/w_225,h_225,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Silvia Farag</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[The Epidemic of Loneliness in Boys]]></title><description><![CDATA[A few weeks ago, while driving my kids we started talking about friendships. They were very curious about my friends. I don’t have a lot of family here, so I always overcompensated in friends. I used to have these epic parties and I would be very inclusive and invite everyone. I enjoy hosting but was whipped out after every party and my kids never wanted big shin digs. I realized it was more about me. As I got older though, my circle became smaller, more intimate and more meaningful. My...]]></description><link>https://www.silviafarag.com/post/the-epidemic-of-loneliness-in-boys</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a108ea0535059752bd7bf9a</guid><category><![CDATA[Parenting]]></category><category><![CDATA[Relationships]]></category><pubDate>Wed, 09 Aug 2023 01:00:07 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/2239ca_807a25f979fa40568f7c65979f683361~mv2.jpeg/v1/fit/w_275,h_183,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Silvia Farag</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[A Love Set in Stone]]></title><description><![CDATA[A Love Set in Stone Psyche Revived by Cupid’s Kiss is one of the most beautiful sculptures by Antonio Canova. It represents the meeting between two young married lovers and is the metaphor of the eternal struggle between rationality and instinct, between heart and mind.  I was in Paris with my daughter early this summer and we visited the Musée du Louvre. (Article coming soon about our incredible mother/daughter trip.) This was by far, my favorite masterpiece in the Museum. I did love gazing...]]></description><link>https://www.silviafarag.com/post/a-love-set-in-stone</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a108ea0535059752bd7bf99</guid><category><![CDATA[Relationships]]></category><pubDate>Wed, 02 Aug 2023 03:40:41 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/2239ca_09e6c2df44be41a29d086fe2ca3baa34~mv2.webp/v1/fit/w_1000,h_845,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Silvia Farag</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Rigid Has Consequences]]></title><description><![CDATA[So many couples argue incessantly and have no idea that this is destroying their relationship, the peace in their home, and their kids’ ability to get along well with others. Their blind spot is that they both wholeheartedly believe that it is necessary to have an opinion about everything that transpires in their world. This is wrong and was learned in your childhood, either directly or as a counter-reaction.  There are two types of people who constantly push their opinions and preferences on...]]></description><link>https://www.silviafarag.com/post/rigid-has-consequences</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a108ea0535059752bd7bf81</guid><category><![CDATA[Relationships]]></category><category><![CDATA[Anxiety & Attachment Style]]></category><pubDate>Fri, 28 Apr 2023 00:32:29 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/2239ca_9733170b40774ef0a5180afb7094c576~mv2.jpeg/v1/fit/w_300,h_168,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Silvia Farag</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Why You Should Build Her Up]]></title><description><![CDATA[When couples are struggling in their marriage, particularly in the dynamic where the woman is the emotional partner and her husband is the avoidant one, the woman’s parenting tends to suffer more than her husband’s does. Her patience levels towards her kids can drop more dramatically than her husband’s due to the relationship conflict. Understanding this can be a useful and transformative realization for couples. First the macro variables. Women generally do more childcare, although not in...]]></description><link>https://www.silviafarag.com/post/why-you-should-build-her-up</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a108ea0535059752bd7bf98</guid><category><![CDATA[Relationships]]></category><pubDate>Fri, 31 Mar 2023 18:44:50 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/2239ca_5ad77218b0854dadb04ca67b888ac833~mv2.jpeg/v1/fit/w_275,h_183,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Silvia Farag</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Physical Touch]]></title><description><![CDATA[Everyone has their own preferred love language, and all are equally important. But there is a compelling argument that I am about to make in which physical touch is the most important.  This is because, unlike every other love language, you are not able to get your physical touch love language met by other people in your life. When spouses who don’t prioritize physical touch and minimize their spouse’s need for physical affection, including sex, cuddling, kissing, they are leaving their...]]></description><link>https://www.silviafarag.com/post/physical-touch</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a108ea0535059752bd7bf97</guid><category><![CDATA[Relationships]]></category><pubDate>Tue, 14 Mar 2023 22:05:41 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/2239ca_52a2c91d148b4a25965c362b8369f425~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_366,h_550,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Silvia Farag</dc:creator></item></channel></rss>